Sunday, September 11, 2011


We had some early discussion about who would marry us and some set backs, but eventually we settled on a person who made perfect sense. My Aunt Nancy. She was already legally able to marry people, she'd performed a few weddings already and she's known and loved us both since we were children.

For me two things were extremely important: 1)Making sure Mike and I were comfortable on our day and 2)Making our promise in our own words. It's a huge deal to me that we vow in the sight of God and our loved ones to be together forever. I can't allow "supposed to's" to unnerve either of us. I want my future husband to be "of sound mind" when he utters this huge promise to me. He doesn't have a relationship with a priest and the one I knew from childhood had disappointed me. Picking a religious figure at random seemed as meaningful as going to the courthouse. So, why not his "other Mom" growing up? Perfect.

The other issue is I don't want to say anything I don't agree with. What use is a promise you don't intend to keep? Love, honor and obey, no thanks. I want to promise each other things we can work on fulfilling together everyday for the rest of our lives. I need to believe in this union going the distance. I don't believe in one size fits all vows, at least for us.

I don't believe only marriages performed by priests/in churches are blessed by God. Any believer lives with the holy spirit inside them. I also don't believe that only a Christian can perform a Christian ceremony. My Aunt is a wonderful person who will perform the ceremony we choose with love and without judgment. It's a wonderful gift to have such an important person in our lives leading us through our ceremony.

It's going to be a beautiful day and a heartfelt exchange of vows. There are no guarantees in this life, but moving forward with the ones you love around you always seems like a good next step.


  1. Ding! Ding! Love Button Please.. Cindi

  2. Where'd you get that picture of me?! It's the only decent one around. Just stole it!
    And Thanks for your Love and Trust! ...Aunt Nan (aka Moogie)

  3. From your Facebook album, silly! I'm so glad you're gonna marry us (:


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