I'll never fit in. For the most part, I gave up any hope of it in High School anyway. Apparently as of 2004 90% of woman in this country changed their name when they married. NINTY PERCENT?!? Woah. I just don't see it.
To me, trying to get someone to give me a good reason to change my name is like trying to find a smoker who can give you a good reason why they started. I've never been the kind of person to do something just because everyone else does it. I need to know why. I have had my name, which I am incredibly fond, of for almost 30years I would like a good reason to abandon it.
I have plenty of reasons not to change it. I have been credited professionally under this name. I love the sound of it. I am one of two daughters born to an only child so the name dies with him if we change it when we marry. We have spent all these years in a committed monogamist relationship with our own names, why rock the boat? Why, is it assumed that I should change my name, but never even considered that he could change his? I was a step mom from the beginning of our relationship and it has never caused a problem that Mike's son and I don't have the same name. My daughter has my name so I'm not the lone weird-o sporting a different name in the house. It just doesn't seem necessary.
The name issue seems archaic and arbitrary to me. It should be a personal decision Not a social mandate. Here's an article that sums it up well.
I'm lucky my intended has no huge ego about his woman having his name (maybe because he already has a son with his name). We have contemplated all changing our names so that we match and have neither original surname, but the longer we have half the family with his name and have with mine the more that seems silly. The only time I ever feel irritation is when I can't just sign the Christmas card "the ___________s" and be done with it. That doesn't seem like a good reason to make the change though. I'm open to it if anyone has one of those.